When it comes to dealing with people, there are many different schools of thought, each with its own theory on how human beings interact with the Universe around them.  Often you find that one theory is no more right than the next, but that its truth is down to just how well it fits on you.

Having said that, you, as well as I do, would no doubt have friends or acquaintences that are of the opinion that one theory is right while all others are wrong.  In general though, how happy are those people, and just how successful are they?  I'm not just talking about money here.  I know plenty of people who make way more money than I do, and drive much hotter cars.  But I regard them as being entirely less successful than I am.  Because they're not happy and they have a crappy attitude.  You know the type, "I'm right and you're wrong."  Most of them are alone and miserable.  And the ones that aren't alone are still miserable and busy trying to make sure that everyone around is in the same emotional state.

These are often the very same people that when you talk about concepts like positive expectancy and success-minded thinking will tell you it's all a load of crap, especially that Law of Attraction garbage.

You see, what I call the concept of the Universal Mirror, which is not necessarily an original name (though I cna't recall coming across it anywhere else) is that everything in the Universe is a reflection of what's real.  When you understand that, according to the Law of Attraction, physics, psychology and several other disciplines that reality is created in our minds by our perceptions of what is happening around us and what we perceive to be real, then the whole Universal Mirror concept starts to make sense.

And the rule that almost everyone seems to quote is that what you fell at any given moment, your attitude or what you're thinking about are reflected back to you by the Universe and people and events around you.  So what happens is that most Law of Attraction experts are going to tell you that you need to remain in control of your thoughts and feelings and think and feel only good things in order for the Universe to reflect those things back to you.

Now there's a lot of narrow-minded people out there who'll tell you this is all a big load of rubbish, and that's fine.  Again, look at their life.  Just how great is it?  You usually find that these people have a bad attitude and a set of life circumstances to match.

But I'm going to tell you something that nobody else will.

While I'm going to agree that of course it's best advice to focus on controlling your thoughts and feelings in order to control what the Universe reflects back to you so that it's giving you what you want, I'm going to advise you to do just that.  But here's the rub.  Try doing it 100% of the time.

You won't be able to do it.  It's impossible.  Your mind won't let you.  Your subconsicous mind is going to look for some kind of distraction at some point.

And what's going to happen then is that something less than ideal is going to take place and you're going to react.  And when you react, as you surely will, the likelihood is you're going to hurt somebody's feelings.

So when that happens I want you to do one thing. 

Forgive yourself.

Because here's the next thing I'm going to tell you that no big name Law of Attraction expert will.  They'll tell you everything happens for a reason, but they won't tell you what the reason is.  They'll say if something like this happens then that the reason is for you to learn how to handle yourself better in these type of situations.  I won't, and I cannot deny the truth of this, but I remain convinced there's another reason as well.

Here it is.

The other reason behind your reaction is much, much simpler.  Remeber I said earlier that you can't be in control 100% of the time?  That's because the Universal Mirror is a two way mirror.  Sometimes it's your turn to reflect back to other people and the Universe jsut what's going on around you, instead of inside you.

It won't always be pretty.

Which is why, when it does happen, don't be too hard on yourself.  Sometimes you've just got to let yourself off the hook and forgive yourself.

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    G'day everyone.  I'm an Aussie Life Coach, Clinical Hypnotist (www.americanallianceofhypnotists.org)  and author with a passion for making every relationship in our lives the best it can be.   I work at local, state, national and international levels.  I am also a Callahan Techniques Thought Field Therapy practitioner trained by Eugene Piccinotti TFT - dx, and I studied Neuro Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner Level (MNLP) under Steve G Jones at the American University of Neuro-Linguistic Programming
    (http://www.aunlp.org).  In other words, as a coach, I'll use whatever I have to use to help you to make the changes you want to make.