I'm often asked about, "I've got a problem with... how would you deal with it?"  Imagine how frustrating it is for the questioner when I smile and say, "Find the solution.," or even "Fix it."  It's even worse for them if I say something like, "Make the decision that it's not a problem but a challenge."

And yes, I do do this deliberately.  Not to specifically annoy them but to illustrate that being part of the solution is a lot simpler than they realise.

One of my favourite mantras of all time is "You're either part of the solution or part of the problem."  Now, my teacher, mentor and occasional coach Steve G Jones keeps telling me, as well as all his other students and his clients, that there are no such things as problems, only challenges.  He regularly says that dealing with a challenge is fun.  Someone says, "Do you want a challenge?"  Yeah okay, could be fun.  "How about if I give you a problem?"  Not so much fun is it.

You see, apparently, my "problem" is, being the "Go to" guy that would regularly be approached for advice or for comfort in times of trouble has led me to become a Life Coach.  That means I want to be paid for what I do.  That means I don't get too specific when someone comes to me to ask how to deal with a problem anymore.  I bring a lot of skill and experience to what I do.  I've invested a lot of time and money in developing my skill set, and I continue to do so.

Some have even said that I have a "problem" in "all you care about is money" because of what I quote for a session (I'll be offering a local, national and international coaching service in the new year).  That's because I bring a lot to the table.  And I continue to learn new skill sets to bring to the table to help my clients make change or improvements in their lives.

My point is that we're all worth something.  But as a Life Coach, I'm not going to let somebody else set my value.  And while I don't think money is the absolutely most important thing in my life, it's still important to us all, or why would some people occasionally try to deny me my value?  The answer is that I don't allow them to set my value.  Only I get to set my value.  And that's one of the things I help people to do.  Set their own value.

You know what your value is, deep down inside.  Sometimes setting your own value has nothing to do with money, sometimes it does.  We use the money scale out of shear convenience.  It's easy for us to quantify.

The problem with the way we live our lives is that most of us have, at some point, let life grind out of us the courage to set our own value.  Again, sometimes our value has to do with money, sometimes it doesn't.  We need to be able to have the courage to stand up and tell the world what our value really is.  And most of the time, our real value has nothing to do with money.  A lot of the time, that's what I help people to do.  And that's why I'm worth the price.

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    G'day everyone.  I'm an Aussie Life Coach, Clinical Hypnotist (www.americanallianceofhypnotists.org)  and author with a passion for making every relationship in our lives the best it can be.   I work at local, state, national and international levels.  I am also a Callahan Techniques Thought Field Therapy practitioner trained by Eugene Piccinotti TFT - dx, and I studied Neuro Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner Level (MNLP) under Steve G Jones at the American University of Neuro-Linguistic Programming
    (http://www.aunlp.org).  In other words, as a coach, I'll use whatever I have to use to help you to make the changes you want to make.