I don't want to harp on this subject matter, but it is something that is quite important for us.  It's important because there are many teachers, and even doctors, that will tell you to "Live in the moment, live fearlessly, and avoid stress."

Being the awakened, enlightened being that I like to believe that I am, these are things that I aim for in my personal achievements.  The only issue is, that as an emotional being capable of rational thought, I'm pretty much 100% certain that only one out of those three is possible.

That's why I get such a bug up my butt about the way certain gurus teach, as well as about what they teach.  As a bilogical organism, I think that any organism with even rudimentary intelligence has about as much likelihood of living a fearless life as the character of Dr Sheldon Cooper has of mastering social interaction with Reese Witherspoon.  In fact I'm so far beyond thinking this, I'm pretty well entirely convinced of this as fact.

So if we can't live fearlessly then what do we do?  Well, the simple answer is that we have to live courageously.  To imply that we can live fearlessly is to deny that fear even exists.  And I want to drive the nail into to coffin of a piece of wisdom that I consider to be nothing more than a piece of crap while I'm on this.

There's a popular saying that fear stands for False Expectations Appearing Real.  Like I said, it's a piece of crap.  Ask anyone who's going through a fear state and I will guarantee you that it more than appears real to them.  To put it another way, to them, the fear is very real.  To take that away from them is to not only invalidate what they're feeling, it invalidates them as a person.

So, therefore, we must live courageously. 

There has, for many years in the personal development industry been the pushing of the "Warrior Mindset" and that you need to live fearlessly like a warrior.  Let me assure you of one important thing.  Even the greatest warriors in history felt fear.  They may have verbally denied their fear, but they acknowledged it in their actions.  Courage is not the denial of fear, it is action in spite of fear.  That's why I'm saying that even though we I disbelieve in the possibility of living fearlessly, I think we can live courageously if we put in the effort to.

Avoid stress.  Well, just like being without fear, I am convinced that there is only one way that can happen.  So I hope you've got a really lovely casket picked out.  Doctors, like so many other professions, love to give an instruction without thinking the language through.  Avoiding stress, as a biological organism, is again, about as likely as one Australian former magazine-style current affair television host regaining her journalistic credibility by the end of next week.

So what can you do?  Well, you can try to minimize your stress levels.  But you're better off learning how to manage your stress levels.  Thought Field Therapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching all offer great options for learning how to manage stress.

Of course, one of the best ways to learn to manage stress is to start practising living in the moment.

And I can already hear a bunch of you say, "But geez that's hard."

Okay, let me be perfectly clear on this point.  I am the last person that's going to tell you it's easy to do, because it's not.  Not at all.  I've got my own issues with trying to master this technique/skill.  It is a very difficult thing to do, especially if it's not something that you're used to doing or if it's a time of stress in your life.  Of course living in the moment will help to deal with the stress that your feeling on the inside, but it won't be easy if it is a stressful time.  I know, I know, it's a Catch 22.

What I can assure you of is that the more time and effort you dedicate to mastering the skill of living in the NOW, the better off you'll be because it will get easier to do.  And yes, it is a skill that can be learned, it just takes time, effort and practise to get it right.  Just like any other skill.

So be courageous, manage your stress by focusing your attention on the NOW and being present.  Go for it.

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    G'day everyone.  I'm an Aussie Life Coach, Clinical Hypnotist (www.americanallianceofhypnotists.org)  and author with a passion for making every relationship in our lives the best it can be.   I work at local, state, national and international levels.  I am also a Callahan Techniques Thought Field Therapy practitioner trained by Eugene Piccinotti TFT - dx, and I studied Neuro Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner Level (MNLP) under Steve G Jones at the American University of Neuro-Linguistic Programming
    (http://www.aunlp.org).  In other words, as a coach, I'll use whatever I have to use to help you to make the changes you want to make.