You know, we all have them.  We all have our own demons to grapple with.  In fact, the only difference really is in the lables we attach to them.  Some of us call them dragons, others demons, a cross to bear, struggles, issues and the list goes on.  It doesn't matter.  We've all got them and we all have to deal with them.  You have them.  I have them.  We all have them.  Anybody who doesn't have them is either lying, delusional or dead.  In some cases they're all three, they just haven't realized and lay down yet.

One of the most common ones is stepping outside of the moment and not being present in the NOW.  I know.  A lot of so-called experts tell you exactly the same thing and they talk about it in a way that sounds like it's a lot of mumbo-jumbo.  I agree with you.  Hippy astrologers (apologies to any hippy astrologers reading this) and happy-clappy God botherers (apologies to the devoutly religious) spouting what really amounts to not a lot more than...  empty words and rituals (and I'll have my say about rituals another day).

I'm going to avoid the expert speak as much as I can.  Mainly because I tend to think the need to call yourself an expert is more about satisfying your own ego (or id, depending on which school you have your recess at) than it is about building a reputation as a "go - to person" in your field.  I'm also going to do my best to avoid the voodoo too.  Instead, I'm going to try to give it to you in a way that is real and that you'll understand.  Instead, I'm going to give it to you from my own personal experience.

Just recently, due to external factors that we don't control, we were faced with an upcoming situation that our household expenses were going to be increasing.  It's not a huge amount that the outgoings are increasing by, it's just that given the current economic climate, we're all looking for ways to manage those outgoings whenever and wherever we can.

You'd think that as someone who meditates daily, a Life Coach, Clinical Hypnotist, TFT Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and someone who works daily with the Law of Attraction, I'd be all over this and completely present in the NOW all the time right?  Guess again.  I have as many issues dealing with this challenge as the next guy.

You see, we found out about the increase in expenditure a few weeks ago now (the past).  The actual increase is yet to happen (the future).  I've been stuck in that discovery (the past) worrying about the increase (the future) for about two weeks now.  I'm caught in a loop of my own construction.  I've been spending most of my time everywhere but where I should be.  When I do manage to get myself present in the NOW, I feel great.  What do I get out of all this worry?  Nothing but stress and tension.

And here's the point.  When you worry about the past, you're worrying about something that's already happened and that you can't change.  In fact, what I have learned from NLP about dealing with your past is that the only thing you can change about past events is how you feel about them.

And when you worry about the future, you're worrying about something that hasn't happened yet.  The serious problem with this is that you may have one piece of information about what's coming up in your future but you don't know all the permutations of how that one thing is going to affect your life in its entirety.  You're just exptrapolating based on your own FEARS.  The fact of the matter is that you don't know how this one thing is going to affect you and you're wasting time worrying about something you don't know for sure.

But if you stop for a moment.  Tap the side of your hand, take a deep breath and count to ten and let go of those feelings, you'll actually be in the NOW and you'll notice that those fears don't actually exist right here or now.  And you'll start to see that there are always alternatives.  Your job is to decide which alternative is the right one for you.

So you see, we've all got our own demons to grapple with and our own dragons to slay.



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    G'day everyone.  I'm an Aussie Life Coach, Clinical Hypnotist (www.americanallianceofhypnotists.org)  and author with a passion for making every relationship in our lives the best it can be.   I work at local, state, national and international levels.  I am also a Callahan Techniques Thought Field Therapy practitioner trained by Eugene Piccinotti TFT - dx, and I studied Neuro Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner Level (MNLP) under Steve G Jones at the American University of Neuro-Linguistic Programming
    (http://www.aunlp.org).  In other words, as a coach, I'll use whatever I have to use to help you to make the changes you want to make.