I've recently discovered the show Last Man Standing with comedic legend Tim Allen and I have to say I love it.  While nothing new, the premise of the show, a real man's man being surrounded by women in the form of a wife and three daughters is briliiantly executed in following him on his misadventures to raise his grandson as a functioning male, especially when the grandson is placed in a daycare setting that is, to say the least, a wimp factory.

As a helping professional, I'm all for exploring our emotions and validating feelings.  It's an absolutely vital component to who we are as human beings and in our growth and evolution as individuals.  The issue I have is that there seems to be times when it's over-thought, overdone, and overanalyzed.  Men are often afraid to ask why so many aspects of daily life have become so gynocentric.

Most men I know love and respect women, even idolize them.  I'm among them.  I cook for a great one every night.

Where it seems to be a problem is that men are now prohibited, at least at the cultural level from doing the things that they love to do.  In case you're wondering what that is, it's get together with their friends, drink beer, fart, shoot guns and blow stuff up.  Okay, maybe that's one extreme end of the scale, but you can be pretty sure that drinking beer and farting with your mates will make the Top 10.

And here we come to the real issue.  You see, wherever you are what I'm about to say is going to ring true and maybe even stir up some criticism.

Pretty much everywhere in the developed world have small groups of women that hold a disproportionate amount of political power.  In some respects this is a good thing because we still haven't reach the end of the roadtrip to gender equality for women.  There is still more work to be done and as long as that's the case there will be a strong need to keep these strong women around.

But the real issue here is double standards.

Here's why.

When you find a gym or a swimming pool that only takes women, or a support group that only takes women, or a professional organization that only works with women, or a social group that only accepts women, all in some official and incorporated capacity, everything's fine.  After all, it's all for the advancement of women where they can support each other without the judgement of men.

But when a group of men want to do exactly the same thing, for the same reasons, all of a sudden they're a bunch of sexist chauvinistic dinosaurs seeking to discriminate and oppress women for their own pleasure.

I can't be the only one who thinks this double standard is ridiculous.

Allegedly, the sexual revolution of the 1960s and 1970s was the supposed end of the Battle of the Sexes.  Nope.  I think it was just the beginning.

So maybe it's time that we really let men go back to being men and making their own choices.
10/24/2013 06:42:35

Thanks to your blog, I'm gonna create one now too, thank you.

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