The arena is pretty much irrelevant.  The fact is that we're surrounded by judgemental people.  And often, the most judgemental of them are the ones who just don't have the guts to do anything of real meaning.  They could be in your house, your social group, your job, in the media.  Like  I said, the arena is fairly irrelevant, but they're there.

Watching, waiting, sitting in judgement.

What gives them the right to sit in judgement over you?

Okay, so here's the deal.  I honestly have to say that I'm as judgemental as the next person and if you don't believe me then you just need to go back through all my previous posts and you'll eventually find what I'm talking about.  I try to keep it under control and I'm okay with it too because we all judge.  Judgement is part of our nature.  It's a function of our egos and it keeps us safe.  Anyone who says we can live entirely without it is mistaken (in my entirely judgemental opinion).

Now back to what I was saying.

Just because someone is sitting in judgement of you doesn't mean they have the right to be there.  The only person who's allowed them to be there is you.  So don't be afraid to demand that they justify their judgement.  You're entitled to respect and if they can't give you a justification of their judgement then you're entitled to tell them to shut the hell up.

And don't let the media off the hood in this either.  Just because they've got a camera and a microphone does not give them a God-given right to get in people's faces and disrupt their lives.  I'm all for freedom of speech and entertainment value, but not at the expense of peoples' dignity.  That's why I don't watch the magazine style shows.  Their reports have been scripted and the outcome decided before a camera has even been picked up.

I'll even give you an example of what I mean by the way the media judges.

If you live in Australia, you'll recognize this recent news story as it happened only within the last couple of weeks, so I won't even mention any names out of respect for the dignity of those involved, even though the names of the main players are public knowledge.

Last week, a former Australian Rules football player with a history of drug addiction and numerous stints in rehab was arrested and charged with carrying a commercial quantity of methamphetamine.  Then a few days later he was filmed yelling at a female television reporter and her film crew in an airport and verbally "abusing" her and her colleagues.

Within hours, and over the course of the next few days every media employed "journalist" with a microphone, camera, or computer was all over the media with an opinion on the incident.  And surprise, surprise, they were all criticizing the ex-footballer for crossing the line and demanding to be left alone.

Let me be clear about one thing before I go on.  I'm not defending the ex-footballer or his actions.  You would genuinely be hardpressed to find anyone in Australia that would be less willing to defend this man than I am.  Simply put, he was an amazingly talented sportsman who liked the party-boy lifetstyle a bit too much and he's chosen a lifestyle that has led him into the path of addiction.  He just has never seemed to "get it".

In this case though, I'm going to say he was acting within his rights.

Here's why.  Witness accounts say he was stalked and harrassed through the airport by this particular reporter after getting off a domestic flight.

Still sound like an over-reaction?

Further witness accounts report that he was stalked and harrassed by the same reporter for the duration of the flight.  In other words, she was on the plain with him and badgered him the entire time.  He was trapped, at 35,000 feet with a tenacious "journalist" for over an hour with nowhere to go.

Still feeling sympathetic toward her?  I'm not.

Like I said earlier.  Just because someone has a camera and a microphone does not mean they have a God-given right to get in your face and disrupt your life and sit in judgement of you.

And don't give me the "a celebrity is public property" argument either.  That's an argument that calls for the re-legalization of slavery.  Anybody making that argument should be treated like it just to see how much fun it really is.

So yeah, we all have judgement.  I think we started to be a little bit more wise in how we use it.

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