How to win your ex back?  Alright, it’s game on.  Without trying to make light of this situation, it’s a bit of a competition.  In other words, it’s a game.  Only for you, it’s a very important game.

As a former head coach of the New York Jets, an NFL football team said, “This is what’s great about sports.  This is what the greatest thing about sports is.  You play to win the game.  Hello?  You play to win the game.  You don’t play it just to play it.  That’s the great thing about sports:  you play to win, and I don’t care if you don’t have any wins. You go play to win.  When you start tellin’ me it doesn’t matter, then retire.  Get out.  ‘Cause it matters.”

Or as the great Vince Lombardi said, “Winning isn’t everything, but wanting to win is.”

I hope you’re starting to get my point because right at this very moment you might be starting to play the most important game in your life.  How this game ends up could have a direct impact on the rest of your life so the hard fact is that you’re going to have to take this seriously.  Also, you’re going to have to believe you can do this.  I believe that you can, so you need to as well.  You’re going to have to do it.  Forget trying.  Remember what Yoda said, “Do, or do not.  There is no try.”  Trying just gives you an excuse to waist your time.  Do it.  How to win your ex back is to put anything unnecessary on hold and put you vital effort into this without holding any of it back.  How you win your ex back is by playing this game to win.

First thing you need to do is to ask yourself if getting your ex back is really that important to you?  How much thought have you honestly put into this?  How much time have you spent looking into this and sorting out the issues that caused the problems?  The truth is that you’ll never know how to win your ex back unless you choose to and commit to making it the top priority in your life right now.  The more you treat it like it’s the most important thing in your life the more chance you have of it being successful. 

The other thing to take into account is that when you’re looking for advice on how to win your ex back, all the advice in the world doesn’t matter unless you honestly believe that this is something you can do.  If you want the romance to return with the relationship, then you absolutely have to believe that you can do it.  That simple.  Seriously, why would you even bother playing the game if you didn’t believe you even had a chance of winning your ex back?  You have to have confidence in two things.  The first is your ability to do this.  If you’ve read any of my articles on the subject, you’ll see that it’s actually a fairly simple process to do.  Second, and I can’t stress the importance of this enough, you have to believe you deserve it.  That actually applies to success in every area of life too, but it’s especially important in this one.  Believe in yourself and you’ll soon figure out how to win your ex back.  And if you need some tips, go through some of my other articles.

If your exgirlfriend or exboyfriend is what you really want then, again, the hard fact is that you’re going to have to put some effort in to winning them back.  You want to know how to win your ex back?  Play the game.  Don’t know the rules?  That’s okay.  I’ve got over 80 articles out there that set the rules out for you (feel free to find them on  Instead of just sitting around thinking about it, get up and do something.  All the greatest ideas in the world are absolutely useless unless you put them into practise and do something with them.  While it is true, in some part, that knowing is half the battle, how many games, how many battles, how many wars have ever been half won by being half fought?  Again, the hard fact is that if you want to win your ex back, you’re going to have to do something about it.

The only way you’re going to win your ex back in to get in and give it everything you’ve got, even at the points where you need to hold back.  Whatever strategy you use, don’t mess around.  Half-baked = half-hearted.  Take it seriously because it’s only going to work if you put 100% into it.  If you know what it is that your ex wants then you need to hold nothing back and meet their needs.  Find out what it is they want and put everything you’ve got into giving it to them.

Getting back together with your ex is a huge challenge but you need to understand that it’s something you can do.  Just make sure that you treat it with the importance it really has in your life.  If you learn how to take it seriously and really play this game to win then you may have just figure out how to win your ex back.  Good luck.

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    G'day everyone.  I'm an Aussie Life Coach, Clinical Hypnotist (  and author with a passion for making every relationship in our lives the best it can be.   I work at local, state, national and international levels.  I am also a Callahan Techniques Thought Field Therapy practitioner trained by Eugene Piccinotti TFT - dx, and I studied Neuro Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner Level (MNLP) under Steve G Jones at the American University of Neuro-Linguistic Programming
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